Quotes...

Thursday, May 21, 2009

One of my Mother's Day gifts from the Colonel was the latest book by
Dr. Laura Schlessinger...
In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms.
I've been enjoying it tremendously.
I wanted to share with you something that just made me stop for a moment and go, "Yes!"

Cleaning and organizing, playing with and teaching my children, shopping and running errands, taking care of finances, doing laundry, taking care of doctor appointments, communicating with teachers, organizing the family calendar, cooking meals, and making our home a comfortable, cozy, and welcoming place for us and our extended family and friends, among other things, is not just being a "stay-at-home mom."

I am making a house a home,
and couldn't be happier with my job.

Sometimes I struggle with staying home and not working outside of the house to provide income. I do have a job and work from home transcribing. But I could be working at a different job, providing much more income for our family.

But then I start to think, how would everything get done if I worked outside of the house? What would my house look like? What type of meals would we be eating? Would I be going through a drive thru more often? Who would take Olivia to her after school job? How would the kids get to their music lessons?

After I sit and think of all the above and a few million more...
...I realize I have the perfect job!
And this is what God has called me to do...
...To be the best mom and wife I can.

I'm going to print this quote out and place it where I can see it on a daily basis to remind myself that yes, this is the perfect job...
...and it's the perfect LIFE for me!
I'm curious, do any of you struggle sometimes
like I do with this decision?

16 comments :

  1. I used to struggle with it a LOT, but after my daughter had cancer a few years ago I realized that if I were not a stay at home, homeschooling Mom I would have probably missed almost a year of my other three childrens lives, between treatments, physical therapy and all of the emotions that go with that. By not having an outside job and homeschooling we were all able to be together through that really hard time and it was a tremendous blessing. After that I haven't struggled with it as much, although I still do on occasion.

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  2. WHEN NOELLE WAS 3 AND I WAS PREGNANT WITH CALE, ONE OF MY FAVORITE TEACHER'S FROM SCHOOL TOLD ME THAT I NEEDED TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL (COLLEGE) AND MAKE SOMETHING OUT OF MYSELF. I THOUGHT I WAS 'SOMETHING'. I REMEMBER THAT DAY CHANGING ME SO MUCH. I QUESTIONED MYSELF, BUT THEN, WHEN I PRAYED AND LOOKED IN GOD'S WORD, I ONCE AGAIN CONFIRMED THAT WHAT I WAS DOING WAS MAKING A DIFFERENCE, AND IT WAS GOD'S PERFECT PLAN FOR ME AND MY FAMILY. WHAT AN HONOR AND HIGH CALLING TO BE A STAY AT HOME WIFE AND MOM!!!
    LOVE THE QUOTE. THANKS FOR SHARING!! YOU'RE A BLESSING.

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  3. Absolutely. I have a degree from a "good" school, which someone told me I was wasting by not working. I respectfully disagreed because I know I am right where God wants me to be.

    I have much respect for the working moms. I don't know how they do it! It's all I can do to provide clean clothes, food, somewhat clean house, do homework with the kids, and shuttle them to all the activities with me not working!

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  4. I used to struggle with it until we started homeschooling, now I realize I have the most important job on earth. God has given me peace in this area and I wouldn't have it any other way.

    I love being home but sometimes you just feel worn out with the same routine every day. That quote is a great little pick me up - thanks!

    Blessings,
    Mandy

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  5. This is wonderful Lois!! I haven't struggled personally with this because we committed to me staying at home when we were engaged, since we both had the benefit of our Moms at home. I know many who do struggle with it, and many who want to come home but can't figure out how to do it. Thanks for sharing this wonderful quote.

    There is no better place to be than in the center of God's will...wherever that places us.

    Blessings and hugs,
    Becky

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  6. I never struggled with it because I've seen what can happen if a mom is not there for her children. I was twice blessed as my grandmother lived with us when I was a child. Between my mom and grandmother we were never needing attention for anything. My husband and I made the decision for me to stay home with our son. I know how hard it must be for moms who need to work, but we found a way and believe God blessed us for it. He gave us one of the most wonderful sons a parent could ask for with a true heart for the Lord. Have a restful weekend. Hugs, Loretta

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  7. I'm older and my kids are grown now, but my husband and I made the same decision...that I would stay at home with the children. It's the very best decision we have ever made! Certainly, an extra income would have been welcome. But for us and in our opinion, nothing...absolutely nothing...is more important than being a SAHM and taking care of my home and family. I consider it a blessing! Even way back when, I'd get comments like, "oh, you don't work" or "you don't have a real job". But no matter, I knew I was doing the very best thing I could for my family. And I'm so happy that our daughter and her husband have made the same decision when the time comes!

    Nancy*

    *The views of this commenter are her personal opinions only and not meant as judgement statements to anyone who chooses to work outside the home.

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  8. I haven't struggled with it because we always knew that once we had kids staying home was THE choice for me. God has blessed it and honored it. When I look around and get into 'compare' mode it is easy for me to become disatisfied or to think about more money, but then I remember the blessings God has given me and I just can't reconcile letting someone else spend more time with them than I do. When my perspective is right, my house and car quickly become much less important.

    I recently heard something funny that still makes me chuckle every time I think of it: After the Fall, God told Adam that he would toil and sweat all the days of his life. God told Eve she would experience pain in childbirth. As soon as my husband is willing to take on my curse, I'll think about being a part of his!

    Have a great day!
    ~Sara

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  9. I was a stay at home mom until my baby graduated from High school.I would not have even thought about working until they were on their own.
    I am happy that you have comfort in being home today.
    God bless

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  10. What a fabulous post!!
    I am very thankful that Dr.Laura
    is coming out and being so encouraging to stay at home moms!!
    What a blessing!! You may also want to check out~ http://yoursacredcalling.blogspot.com/
    for further Biblical encouragement in your sacred calling. I am always blessed and edified by what Mrs.McDonald has to say!

    Love Always~ Jen

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  11. I used to struggle with some of that, too. I knew I would always be the one to care for my children and take them to appts. and lessons, like you. I also knew it would not be a career that would bring income into our household but I have never regretted it.
    I, like you, did things at home that helped out a bit. I did craft shows for 12 yrs. to pay for college and weddings.
    I loved being a homemaker.
    Both our girls have college degrees and worked a few yrs. before they had children. Now they are stay at home moms. One teaches piano and voice lessons and homeschools her children. The other is working a few hours a day at her home computer, while the kids nap, for her former employer. I'm proud they are the primary caregivers for their own children.
    I know there are cases where the situation may call for moms to work. I'm just expressing how grateful we were with our choices.

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  12. I knew I alwyas wanted to be home with the kids, I shuttered at the idea of someone else with them all day long feedign them changing them hugging htme etc.. and not kowing how they where beign taken cared of really bothered me.

    really childhood is so short I wanted to spend all the time I could with them, before they are grown up and its too late.

    I sometimes think of getting a job and making some extra money, - I do help my grandmother through the week and the family pays me a bit- .But I too feel this is where god called me to be, he did not give me kids for someone else to raise them.

    This is why I homeschool them too.

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  13. Oh~I want to read that! Lucky you! What a wonderful gift! You enjoy every minute of being a keeper at home. We are so blessed!
    Have a great day!
    Carrie

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  14. This is an amazing quote Lois, and sums up many of the fears and concerns I had about becoming a SAHM after working so hard for so long to make a career for myself. I know in my heart that what I am doing is right for our family, and especially my daughter, and more than one of my friends who have gone back to work have confided in me that they are a little jealous that I have not - and they would like to be at home with their little one. We never get this time back - we have to spend it in the way that is most valuable - and I believe that for our family that is what I am doing by being at home. It is work - we just aren't getting paid for it!!!

    Much love to you for the weekend Lois x

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  15. IT IS the best job in the world. And your family is blessed to have you.

    :)Silver

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  16. The struggle is always there...not really for me but for others that try to figure out why I do what I do. I do work some for my husband and for my church but mostly I am at home. God blesses and always provides and I am so thankful.

    Thanks for sharing this wonderful post.

    God is so Good!

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