A Great Man...

Friday, March 13, 2009

My mother had an appointment yesterday that I drove her to. She insisted she could drive, but I like to go with her. She had to meet with her accountant to give him all the paperwork so he could start working on her taxes.

I know, you're probably saying to yourself, "Why couldn't she just mail them in?" I said the same thing. But this is what my parents always did EVERY YEAR. They made the drive to see him and "visit" as my mother likes to say.

This year the drive was further...my mother now lives here in Pennsylvania. This year the visit was filled with memories...this year we also drove to the cemetery to visit with my father.

While my mother was working with the accountant, I sat in the background listening to them talk about the past 40 or so years, reminiscing about people they both knew, all the while knowing that the most important person was missing from this visit this year...my father.

At one point the accountant looked at me and said, "I hope you know how great a man your father was." I nodded my head and said, "Yes, I'm beginning to realize just how great a man he truly was."

And I truly am. My father was a great man of God who loved the Lord with all his heart. He was such a humble person. He was such a strong man, yet his heart was so tender. In the last few years of my father's life he changed so much. It was so hard for us to see him like this. It was so hard for me to see him lying on that basement floor after he fell. It was so hard for me to see him lying in that hospital bed. But the hardest was for me to see him lying in that casket.

I can honestly say those memories are slowly being replaced with the wonderful memories of who my father was before his mind began to fail him and before that awful fall. And to hear other people tell me how great he was just makes my heart swell with pride of the wonderful man I got to call "Daddy."

27 comments :

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this powerful post...((hugs)) It touched my heart deeply....

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  2. With mom not being buried two months yet there is still much pain,but I am for sure a proud daughter and see her for the great woman she was.
    I hope like you this continues to grow as the years go by.There is nothing like a godly parent that teaches us things we never know at the time will make us who we are today.

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  3. Precious, Lois, just precious. The legacy we leave is so important. I'm so glad that your Dad lived in such a way that others than his family were touched by his goodness. What a blessing!

    Have a joyful day, sweetie!
    Blessings,
    Becky

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  4. As I sit here with tears running down my face I also have a smile on my face for you. What an amazing testament to your father. A christian man that left his mark on this world and those around him and because of his humbleness he probably never knew.

    Have a blessed weekend!

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  5. I'm sure your mom really appreciated you going with her to her appointment. It's always so wonderful to hear stories about how a loved one had impacted people. Your Dad was a dynamic man of God and truly touched so many lives (including mine).

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  6. Lois~

    Such a wonderful post...as I wipe the tears from my cheeks! Just to know one day you will see him again is truly a blessing! O' happy day that will be!!

    Have a wonderful day!
    Hugs~ T

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  7. GOD IS SO GOOD TO US TO BLESS US WITH SUCH WONDERFUL EARTHLY FATHERS. I'M GLAD YOURS WAS GODLY AND GOOD. WHAT A BLESSING, I ENJOYED YOUR STORY. MAY GOD BE NEAR AND DEAR TO YOU AND YOUR MOTHER.

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  8. Once again you touched my heart....and yes, with tears in my eyes. As our Pastor, your Dad had the most impact on our lives as our spiritual leader and friend. The Fehr's and the Mauritsens are so very grateful. He will always be in our hearts and we will never forget him. We have so many wonderful memories. Give our love to your Mom. Have a blessed day!

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  9. This is a really beautiful post. I"m glad you have such fond memories of your father, and that you were able to spend time with your mother.

    Jane

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  10. I can't add anything more eloquent that your own words about your father.

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  11. This was a very sweet post ~ precious, Dear Lois.

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  12. What a blessing to have a man of God for your daddy! Your dad's faith has affected generations to come because of his faithful walk with God.
    Such a sweet post, Lois. I know that you miss him deeply.

    My dad has been gone for two years now, and it does get easier.
    I's sure that in the coming years you will hear how your dad helped those around him that you never knew about.
    This has been our story after Dad passed away. What a blessing.

    Have a blessed weekend,Lois.
    Hugs,
    Linda C

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  13. THere is something about this post that touches my heart.
    It made me cry. You are such a sweet daughter.

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  14. This is a beautiful tribute to your father. Thank you for sharing it.

    Thanks, also, for your sweet comments on my blog. Please continue to remember my Grandmother. She has a hard road ahead.

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  15. What beautiful words Lois. So warm and from the heart - and they say that women marry men who remind them of their fathers - so you are doubly blessed. It is lovely that you have so many people around you with such great things to share about your Dad. Enjoy them all!

    Fiona x

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  16. Wow! How great, this post is so toucing. Sorry for the loss of your father, but how nice to know that he was such a great person. God picks people for reasons that we cannot understand at this point in time. Oh how great it will be to be with our loved ones. I long and live for that day!!!

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  17. Lois, this is such a touching post. I remember as a child, my mom would tell me the story of her dad telling she and her siblings that he didn't have anything of monetary value to leave them, but he could leave them a good name. I never really "got" it.

    Having happy memories, a godly and well-respected father are such blessings. I know how it makes me feel when someone says something nice about my dad, who passed away 26 years ago at age 62.

    Have a blessed weekend☺

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  18. funny how we think so much alike...I guess there's a reason why we are only 18 months apart! I wrote a little about Daddy today too, and I didn't even read your blog! Glad all went well with MOM.

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  19. I am so glad that your father was such a wonderful man. It is hard to lose a parent. I lost my mother this last year and she is still missed.

    Cynthia

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  20. How special!! ;)
    Thank you for sharing your heart.

    Many Blessings~ Miss Jen

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  21. Thanks for sharing this. I pray that wonderful memories continue to replace painful ones.

    Mandy

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  22. Lois, I just sat here and relayed the details of your post to Steve and we are both in tears! What a blessing that God is showing you the truth of the blessing He gave you in your father, both here on earth and now in heaven. Blessings to you today! ~Sara

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  23. First thought that came to mind was how wonderful that you and your mom have a day to spend together. It is those memories, after a loved one is gone, that are most consoling. When my grandmother died, I was crying and laughing on the way to her burial because my two kids were verbally remembering all the great and funny times. I know she is physically gone but lives forever in my heart.

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  24. That is why we should all do what we can to leave a lasting impression on every one we meet. It seems as if people aren't connected like they used to be. I try to make every day count with friends and family. Life is so short! Thanks for sharing that piece of your blessed life with us. I think I will go call and check on my mom and dad right now! ;-) Have a blessed Sunday.

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  25. Lois,
    I just cried when I read this!! I feel the pain that you are feeling, My dear father was my hero when I was growing up, I loved him so. and still miss him so much.The firsts that we have to do after a loved one has gone to be with the Lord, are the hardest!! Sitting around my parents dinner table and seeing that empty seat I think was one of the harder things for me. My father loved his family and always enjoyed us sitting and talking.
    Its is only through the love of my Lord and His strength that we as a family have made it, plus the love and care of a wonderful husband, as you seem to have!!
    A minister once told me that the memories we have after a person have gone are our means by which we are healed. He said that i might walk by a picture of that loved one and cry , and that's okay, he also said a thought might come to my mind of something they said and I would probably laugh, that's okay!!
    Isn't it wonderful that your father lived such a life that people remember him so well!! What a blessings, what a legacy!!Praying for you my dear friend as I share your pain1
    Sue

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  26. DEAR SWEET LOIS,
    WHAT A POST...I CRIED AND I CHUCKLED AND I THOUGHT OF MY PARENTS, MY IN LAWS, THAT SOMEDAY WE WILL HAVE TO LOOK INTO A CASKET....MY DADDY IS MY WORLD...I CAN'T IMAGINE THE PAIN....
    HOW VERY SWEET OF YOU TO GO WITH YOUR MOTHER....MY IN LAWS ARE 86 AND 88 AND THEY STILL DRIVE TO THEIR ACCOUNTANT AND I BELIEVE IT IS A FRIENDSHIP THAT DEVELOPED OVER THE YEARS LIKE YOUR PARENTS HAD WITH THEIR ACCOUNTANT.....
    BLESSINGS
    debbie

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  27. What a touching post. I do understand after losing Mother last July. Night time is the worst for me when I'm trying to go to sleep. I see the casket image.

    Daddy is still so weak and it just breaks your heart. You are in my prayers.
    JudyBug

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